Emma said, “Sometimes they compare me to someone else.” Nicky added: “Sometimes, adults just expect too much from us. Those voices aren’t just getting to us grownups-they’re also getting to the kids. Social media can make the most well-adjusted adult feel insecure: You need to work out more, be more beautiful, wear better clothes, eat healthier foods, take wilder vacations, buy a bigger house. Kids want grownups to love them just as they are. Finally, the chores! Ramona lamented, “They think you have all this time to do all these things they want you to do, even when you don’t have time.” Grownups need down time to recharge, “me time” when they’re the only ones calling the shots, blissfully unscheduled chunks of time to be filled with anything or nothing. Trevor explained, “I have something else to do every day! Homework, Math Olympiad, swimming, tutoring, karate, Japanese school … ” Then there’s the homework, every day, and sometimes even on weekends. Kids get drained, too, but they’re not often in control of their own schedules. It doesn’t have to be for a long time.” 6. Braden pleaded, “We have to play electronics. If medium doses are okay and even necessary for us grownups, then maybe we need to make similar allowances for kids. But when we do so with kids around, we need to think about the message we’re sending. When adults overdose on screen time, we reckon privately with ourselves. They notice our every swipe and screen binge. As grownups, we just need to acknowledge that sometimes we are hypocrites. Kids want electronics just as much as grownups do. They want to know what’s going on in their lives. Sometimes the honest conversation is harder and more prolonged, but children deeply appreciate when you acknowledge the truth. A child could spend the next hour craning her neck, looking for you, waiting to see your face through the crowd. If you’re going to be late, or you’re not going to make it at all, tell the truth. Kids aren’t the only ones with an ardent desire to be believed, whether they’re telling the truth or not. If we say we didn’t do something, I wish they would trust us.” 4. Zen put it poignantly: “I wish they could trust us more. Why weren’t they being more careful? Where was the oldest child? It’s easy to jump to “blame the kid,” but as Dustin said, “They think they know what happens, and we get in trouble for it.” It’s important for us to take that deep breath, ask what happened, and truly listen to children’s accounts. Something spills, somebody’s crying, something breaks: A kid must have done it. You don’t always have to be happy, but you should know that you’re more of an open book to the kids in your life than you might realize. According to Ty, “Grownups are so grumpy all the time!” From the looks on our faces, how could he think otherwise? Ella told me, “When our parents get really stressed, I want them to know that we really love them and care about them.” They see us, they read us, and they want the best for us. They pick up on facial expressions, gestures, states of mind. Sometimes-no, most of the time- we need to summon the benefit of the doubt and support one another’s best efforts. Kids are humans, and humans are works in progress. “They expect that I can control my anger, but sometimes I can’t,” he said. He told me, “English is hard! When I speak, it’s hard.” Aicha added, “I wish my mom would understand that even though I pay attention during math, it doesn’t always mean I understand when I get home.” Ty reminded me how easy it is to forget the challenges that come with not having mastered a skill, a topic, or a language. For example, Mo has been learning to read, write, speak, and comprehend English for the past three years. My students told me that they really are trying, but some things are genuinely difficult. “Practice makes perfect.” “If you put your mind to it, you can fill in the blank.” (Insert: play the piano, do well in school, understand math, speak up in class, manage your emotions, etc.) These are some of the things children hear from adults. Kids want you to know how hard they’re trying. Here’s some of what I heard from them: 1. When I talked with them about the experience, a theme emerged: They said they wished that adults knew more about their lives and experiences. “What I wouldn’t give to be a kid again … “ “Kids have it so easy, they just play all day!” “It must be so nice being around kids all day they don’t have any problems or issues.” I’ve spent the past year teaching my students to initiate conversations with one another and with buddies they made across the Pacific through video chats. I’m a 4th grade teacher, and I’m often surprised by grownups’ perceptions of childhood. 25, 2019 7 Things Children Wish Their Teachers and Parents Knew By Eileen Carr OctoI spend a large portion of my waking hours in the company of 9- and 10-year- olds.
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